Walk in faith when relationships end

Published 9:00 am Tuesday, February 28, 2017

It’s over!

You never thought your relationship would end this way. 

You ignored the signs that something was definitely wrong, because deep inside you still longed for the relationship to work. Maybe you had a vision that the two of you would spend the rest of your lives rearing a family, and pursuing your dreams … then BAM! 

All of a sudden your world shatters, and nothing is the same. What in the world just happened? Well honey, life just happened, and it just so happens that life doesn’t always happen the way we plan it. 

If your relationship ended in a respectful manner, consider yourself lucky. Unfortunately for some, not only did the relationship end, but it ended in a nasty battle of the sexes.

Soul ties. You’re probably familiar with the term “soul ties,” the experience of your mind, will and emotions becoming spiritually intertwined with another person’s mind, will and emotions. 

You won’t find the phrase in the Bible; however, there are stories that display characteristics of this type of relationship, such as Adam and Eve, a romantic relationship, and David and Jonathan, a mutual friendship. 

Scripture says that “Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself.” Now if David and Jonathan experienced this type of bond and they were only friends, just imagine how much stronger the bond between a man and a woman, especially if the couple was sexually involved. Sex connects your souls, making it difficult for one or both parties to leave toxic relationships. 

When your soul is knitted to another, it becomes extremely challenging to separate without emotional residue and pain or “soul hurt,” as I like to call it. As strong as this bond is, it can be broken and restoration is available to you.

As you journey through this process from union to singleness, just be sure to walk in faith and press into the presence of God through scriptures, prayer, and listening to His voice. 

I also encourage you to get the appropriate therapy if needed. There is no shame in working with someone to get the necessary tools for mental stability and emotional recovery after a traumatic loss. If therapy isn’t an option, find a trustworthy person to confide in. 

Last, don’t underestimate the power of journals; it’s a great way to organize and express your thoughts.

The stages of breakup and grief are denial, bargaining, depression, anger, acceptance and hope. Next week, we will explore the stage of denial.

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